Whatever the situation, your emotions towards it are not an “overreaction”. Similarly, your emotions are not an “under”reaction. Whatever you are feeling, it makes sense. Maybe something hits you harder than you’ve seen it hit others. Doesn’t matter. Your nervous system is your nervous system. Some of us are ticklish AF, some of us are …read more →
It is Wednesday, which is the arbitrary turning point that, for those of us who work a 9-5 job, marks the moment where the dreaded beginning of the week crosses into the highly anticipated end of the week–paving the way for the always relieving weekend. Wednesday is, in its own tiny way, a transition. And …read more →
It is ok if you don’t have the spoons for conflict. It takes a lot of emotional labor to engage in conflict. It is not fair to you if someone demands that you engage in conflict immediately, without letting you gear up.
However, it’s also not fair for you to ignore someone because you don’t have the wherewithal, and not tell them that is what is happening.
So how do you manage to keep the conflict at bay and not just straight up ignore the person?
Here’s something they didn’t teach you in high school: boundary-setting.
Once I went to a medium, because that’s the sort of thing I do, and she connected to my deceased friend who kept telling the medium to tell me that I’m a witch. The medium admitted this to me bashfully at first, then dove headfirst into defensiveness saying, “Her words, not mine, take it for what …read more →